Confidential vs Anonymous

We said this is "confidential and mostly anonymous." What does that mean?

This is "confidential" in the sense that we only store information you give us and don't share or sell it to anyone.

This is "mostly anonymous" because usually nobody can determine who you are. But there are some exceptions. If your mom or best friend were to login, they might be able to recognize you via your voice or video.  In that way, it's not anonymous. So, here are some tips.

TIP: Don't use your real name.
TIP: Use a secondary email address if you register on Discord or another service.
TIP: If you are really paranoid, don't use audio or video.
TIP: If you do use audio or video, consider using sunglasses, wearing a hat, or muffle your voice.
TIP: You can wait and see who else is present before turning on your audio/video in Zoom or audio on Discord.

Vagueness can also help

Furthermore, we mostly talk about feelings, not about specific details of whoSaidWhat. So, keep it as vague as you like to keep it comfortable with you. For example, instead of saying you hate your boss, say you are having struggles at work. Or, instead of saying you know someone who had their parent die, say you now someone who is experiencing grief.


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